Is it really possible to stay positive regardless of the circumstances? Wouldn’t that be awesome if that were true? I’ve met some really positive people, and I remember wondering if they were actually being honest or if they were just pretending to be so positive. I remember a coworker who came to work the morning after her vehicle had been stolen, and she had the same smile and sunny disposition she always had.
So how can you stay positive regardless of the events you face? Much can be revealed by how we react to the weather, traffic, and other rather routine events. Listen to your own internal dialogue next time. We have all dealt with adverse weather or traffic jams, and though they aren’t typically dramatic (absent the recent winter storm), we usually don’t let them get us down. We just deal with them and look forward to another day. We all know people, however, who tend to look at the negative side of things or who complain about nearly everything, including things they can’t control, which is the perfect formula for misery.
Our behavior and mood are reflections of our internal dialogue, which is based on our model of the world and our beliefs. Those who seem negative most of the time, may believe that the world is a scary or mean place or that everyone is out to get them. This could have a foundation in a more fundamental belief about their own worthiness, but the gist of it is that they see the world in a negative way. So, the inverse is also true. Those who are more positive have a positive, joyful model of the world and themselves. The most positive and successful people also have what I believe is the most empowering belief for having a positive perspective and leading a successful life.
What would happen if we knew that when negative things happen in our lives, they actually result in a positive outcome no matter how negative the event seems at the time? If nothing could happen that would result in a long term negative outcome, there would be no reason to have a negative outlook. I realize this sounds far fetched, but think of it this way. If you knew you were living the life you were meant to live and that everything that happened was so that you could realize your fullest potential and joy and dream, in every way, wouldn’t you look at life more positively, no matter what happened? You would indeed! How cool is that?