Words for the Wise

Many of us have read or heard quotes or sayings or prayers that have impacted us in wonderful ways.  Some of us have even kept a special expression as a “mantra” or a driving “philosophy.”  Several have helped guide me over the years, and I often come across others that I find meaningful and helpful in given situations.  For those who follow me on Twitter or Facebook, you may have seen some of the ones I’ve shared.

There is one special quote that has guided me over many years, and though I sometimes wish I had always paid attention to it, I believe that even those times when I didn’t, I was meant to remember it at the perfect time and to learn the lesson from having drifted away from it.  Before I reveal that quote to you, let me share others I have found meaningful that you may enjoy, as well.

A favorite is by Eleanor Roosevelt who said, “The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.” This is important because we can never realize a dream we don’t have.  It’s like the lottery; you can’t win if you don’t buy a ticket (and I encourage you to play responsibly).  Another wisdom is by Anaïs Nin, who wrote, “We don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are.”  From my study and practice, I know that there is great power in both of these quotations.  I am sure you have your favorites, and I would enjoy hearing from you if you care to share.

Of all the famous quotes and expressions I have come across over the years, the one that has guided me for decades is recognized as the “Serenity Prayer,” by Reinhold Niebuhr.  Though it has come to be used in recovery programs, particularly 12-step, it is applicable in every facet of life and circumstance.  Many of us get upset with situations over which we have no control, and yet, we expend so much energy that we suffer physically and emotionally.  Upon reflection, we know that makes no sense, so what might help?

“God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.”  Once we give up the desire to control all beyond our control, we can then allow ourselves to enjoy all that is, to be grateful for what we have, and to dream beautiful dreams.  How cool is that?

Above the Clouds

I am one of the most positive people I know, someone who has a reputation for being “Zen,” quite good at being in the “Now” and not worrying about what may or may not happen. I am a firm believer that it isn’t what happens to us but in how we deal with what happens to us that determines the life we live and our joy. The Serenity Prayer (see March 8, 2009 post) has been one of my guiding principles for many years, and I am proud of myself for all that I have accomplished, for the way I treat others, and for what I have endured.

With that said, I am also confused. I am in the midst of a struggle – a struggle to understand what it is I am meant to learn by going through this particular time of my life. Why would I create such pain in my life except to learn a lesson that will serve me, and perhaps others? My job is to help others, which I do every day. My clients have benefited greatly from working with me, and I positively affect many others, some of whom don’t even know that I have helped them. I love what I do, and I look forward to helping many more people in different ways, not only through my work as a hypnotist, but also as a speaker and writer. It seems that what I am going through, now, is a “Cobblers’ children have no shoes” kind of situation. “Healer, heal thyself.” Am I too close to see the answers, and might I even be too close to know what questions to ask? And then….

Helene Rothschild, a wonderful teacher and mentor, has taught me that when things seem really tough, when you don’t know what to do, go up! So I choose to go up, to rise above the clouds, where it is always clearer and brighter. Above the clouds, above the pain, above the despair, the answers to all of my questions (and yours) will be found. Above the clouds, where it is clearer and brighter, there is hope. Above the clouds, where all the forces of the Universe come to your aid, to guide you, to hold you, to remind you of how wonderful and beautiful you are. Above the clouds, where the songs in your heart are not distorted by outside influences or fear. Above the clouds, where unconditional love lives forever and always.

So I choose to go up, to rise above the clouds, to find the answers to all my questions. I choose to create the life that I deserve, knowing that I am good enough; I deserve to have the life of my dreams. Is “amazing” ever not good enough? Never! Amazing is always good enough. Is “amazing” too good to be true? Nope! We all deserve to be happy, and when you realize that you deserve to have exactly the life you dream of, that life will unfold before you. It is unfolding right now. If you don’t believe you deserve it, you may push it away, and you may not even realize what you are losing. What a tragedy if you push away the life you have dreamt of because you don’t believe you deserve it.

Join me above the clouds. Join me in knowing that you are good enough no matter what. Join me in knowing that you deserve to have the life you may have only dared to dream about. Helene Rothschild says, “Close your eyes and see clearly.” Go ahead and close your eyes, and see clearly the life you would love to have. It is waiting for you, right here, right now.

All the best, always,