Many of us have had an accident of some kind and may have suffered an injury. Some may have suffered other injuries, either physical or emotional. When something like that happens to us, it is understandable to think of ourselves as victims, especially when another party is involved and seemingly responsible. What is a potential negative consequence of our feeling like or believing we are victims, and perhaps even believing in “accidents” of “suffering injury?”
In Neurolinguistic Programming (NLP), which is the study and application of how we form beliefs and how those beliefs drive behaviors, we look at the role of language as one factor. Language is more than simply the spoken word and includes nonverbal language as well as our internal dialogue. What you say to yourself is important in recognizing why you may behave in a certain way. It relates to the notion, “What you believe, you will achieve.” The caveat is that you need to be careful about what you say to yourself, because it may just become your truth.
If you believe you are a victim, is it possible that you have relinquished not only your power but also responsibility for your circumstances? If you are not responsible for your circumstances, then what purpose is there in learning new skills, in making good decisions, in eating healthy foods that support your body, in exercising, and in being a good example for your children? Have you ever known someone who always blamed everyone and everything else for their circumstances? How often have we heard a child say, “That wasn’t my fault?” My mother never accepted that excuse because she told me it was my responsibility to not allow myself to be in a situation that could result in my being hurt or getting in trouble. It was my responsibility to leave a situation before getting in trouble or being hurt. I didn’t realize it at the time, but that lesson taught me much about responsibility, which carried over to all aspects of my life.
When you think of yourself as a victim, you give away everything that allows you to accomplish all the wonderful dreams and goals you deserve. When you take full responsibility for what happens in your life, you become the victor over your life. When you think of yourself as the victor, the master of your circumstances, then anything is possible. How cool is that?
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There are SO many people in the world who play the victim card. I’ve certainly done it, and it’s an easy trap to fall into when the going gets rough. This post is a nice reminder that we can control our internal messaging and achieve more positive outcomes. Thanks, Karl!
Thank you, Bob. We all need reminders, and sometimes the process of writing allows a certain reflection we might otherwise miss.